Being able to hold up a mirror to someone else with out being the accuser (Satan) is a skill that requires dedicated work. We must be able to help the directee to see the state of their own spiritual life.
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And so, without suffering, we don’t give up control. It’s forced on us. It’s absolutely forced on us, because there’s nothing reasonable, logical, about suffering. No one deserves it, really. It just comes our way, damn it. Yeah. And I think in many people’s lives, who am I to say, but it has to come our way. We don’t recognize our immense control needs. I want to define my life the way I want to define my life. Spirit can’t let you get away with that, or you’ll be a very small soul, a very small humanity. So, suffering takes you outside of your comfort zone, literally, where you have to find a different meaning, a bigger purpose. You have to expand the limits of your soul and your psyche and your perception. 1